SynopsisStop letting the dysfunction of your childhood and family affect the person you can be today. Learn how to create realistic expectations for relationships with people you can't quit. Some of the deepest traumas we face today are the result of generational wounds. These are the curses that are passed down to us and inherited without our permission. The conflict arises when these behaviors are so deeply woven into our family systems that they begin to clash with who God is and what He has planned for His followers. Often it becomes easier to submit to the way "things have always been" which leaves you shrinking, editing, and bending yourself to fit in. Many choose comfort and compromise over stepping into the life God has called them to live, and suffering ensues. The damage and destruction suffocate our relationships, are detrimental to our mental health, and are recycled through our parenting. In Loyal to a Fault, Courtney Burg helps you break free from generational curses by: Taking a belief inventory to investigate how you have been shaped and the impact of early conditioning. Uprooting the limiting beliefs that are keeping you stuck and claiming the beliefs you truly want. Recognize the only person you can change is you and identify past wounds for healing. Learning how to end the legacy of mistrust. Reframing what it means to love and be loyal to those who matter most. When you reclaim what God says is true for you and set down what isn't, you set others free to do the same. Learn to confront the lies dictating your words and behaviors and take authority over your fears., Do you find yourself living as the people pleaser or peacekeeper Do you avoid conflict Learn how to overcome your fears about setting boundaries and step into a life that's overflowing with love, respect, and healthy relationships. We are people who love patterns, even if returning to these patterns continues to hurt us or those we love. Some of the most harmful patterns of behavior are passed down through generations and inherited, often without our permission or awareness. The conflict arises when these behaviors are so deeply woven into early family systems that they later become part of our identities, clashing with who God has created and called us to be. As a child, Courtney Burg quickly learned that remaining loyal to others meant keeping secrets, even if these secrets were keeping those she cared for most sick. Her efforts to sustain the peace followed her into adulthood and slowly left her depleted, discouraged, and drowning in the chaos--until Courtney discovered that not only did God grant her permission to engage in relationships differently, but that he gave her specific instruction on how to do so. In Loyal to a Fault, Courtney Burg unpacks the various ways we cope with, enable, and participate in unhealthy relationships or generational trauma. Using personal examples and providing practical wisdom, Courtney helps you break free from codependent patterns by: Identifying the role you are playing in keeping the dysfunctional patterns going. Reframing what it means to love and remain loyal to those who matter most. Reminding you that boundary work is a biblical practice. Including end-of-chapter prompts for deeper introspection. It is possible to learn how to love others well without losing yourself along the way. People pleasing, complaining, and exhaustion may be today's norm, but at any moment you can choose to do things differently. Begin setting boundaries and start enjoying relationships in all the ways God designed you to., We are people who love patterns, even if those patterns hurt us or those we love. Some of the most painful behaviors are passed down through generations and inherited without permission. Conflict arises when these behaviors are so deeply woven into family systems that they begin to clash with who God is and what He has planned for His followers. As a child, Courtney Burg quickly learned that remaining loyal to others meant keeping secrets, even if those secrets were keeping those she cared for most sick. Her efforts to keep the peace and perform left her depleted, discouraged, and drowning in the chaos-until Courtney discovered that not only did God grant her permission to engage in relationships differently, but that He gave her specific instruction on how to do so. In Loyal to a Fault, Courtney unpacks the various ways we cope with, enable, and participate in unhealthy relationships. Using personal examples and practical wisdom, Courtney helps you break free from codependent patterns by: identifying the role you are playing in keeping the dysfunctional patterns going; reframing what it means to love and be loyal to those who matter most; and reminding you that boundary work is a biblical practice. "You are allowed to have a better life than the one that was handed to you, and you are worthy of healthy relationships that reflect and honor all the beautiful ways in which He designed us to love."
LC Classification NumberBV4597.52.B77 2023